Great Leader and Great Family

Monica Agustina

1122002005

A leader is a person that can lead, affect the true character, and creative to relize their goal. But, the true leader is a leader who can lead in any situation. Leadership ability is begin in a family, because we can feel how to be a leader like our father and how to be a good member. As we know that a family is lead by father. Why? Father is a person who can save us, teach the sience, and inspirit us.

Leadership is also begin in surroundings and learn us to lead many people. For example in a smaller scope such as in a family. In our family, we can learn about lead everyday and everytime because family always besides you in anytime. Leader is not born, but it is developed and it start from home. How the parents do it is affect how the children do. How they do is also how their behaviour and their attitude. A leader need good attitude to lead many people who have different behavour and then the leader can became someone that have respect from many people.

Besides being a parents and caring their children to adult, parents also have some tasks to their children. What the parents teach, it's what that the habit and behaviour their children. It’s because of the children always follow what their parents do and teach. For example, a father always using domestic violence in his family, then the children was grow up in harsh environment. So that children became a stubborn person. So, parents must learn their children a good attitude, good behaviour, and then the children have great attitude. The true leaders must have great behaviour to lead her/his member to get their goal in the next time.

Not only have good attitude to be a true leader, but also a leader should be a creative person. Monotonic person can affect your member so bored because you don’t have anything to change the bored situation. My father was creative person, he can do something to get a good, warm, and happy situasion in our beloved family. There are love and care in our little home. Love and care are something to we need in our organization or leadership. 

Unity, is a thing we need too in our leadership because if we don’t have this, split will occur.

So, we should be a great parents to develop our children became the true leader. When we was child, we can learn good attitude, creative person, love and care also unity in a little situation, it’s called a family. What was you learn when you as a child, it was what your behaviour too. Age is not a factor that can refuse you to became a leader. 

Home and Leadership

Andang Sirajudin Haqi

1122002009

Home is place of our 1st interaction, in home we as human learn about our 1st personality. A great human come from good family. Education from family especially parents and family circumstances make personality for someone. In home we are being introducted with how become human, although not 100 percent come from human but it be the most part of our personality.

How to become a new leader? New leader is create from child. And for the most part when we were child, we spent our time with family, so good family make a good human. Child always follow their parents or the older person who they admire. When parents to bad thing children also to the bad thing, and when parents do a good things children do that too. So to make your child be a good person, you must think, are you a good person too?

Many people miss a good leader, especially old people. Old people always dream when a good leader comes from young people. But, are the old people thing are they let the young people share they vision? No they arent. When you hope something you must think first. The expression of young peole is hold off, because they can shout off their think because covered of old people think, but is the old people think always right?

In Indonesia, many parents make their child always in home, and parents always think organization is for old people. Youngster can led the organization freely. Parents also always ban their child to do many things, such as join an organization. Because of that the inspiration from youngster is hold off because they affraid if they tell their inspiration they do the wrong things.

Parents have an obligation to educate the child and is responsible for the formation of the child's personality to establish good personal for the child, which of course required special treatment to children. And because of that as a parents you must not banned your child to do many things, respect the opinion of your child, make your child enjoy everywhere, always do the good thing in front of your child. Be a someone that respect anything, and have a respect from many people. Always support your child.

As parents, you must give your child attention and affection, give a courage to your child, not to much to expect your child and don't forget to give encouragement and advice to your children. Attention and affection that give must not be strict supervision of children in all the activities.

That things will bring good impact on children who among them children have much confidence, optimism, creativity is positive at the end of his personality and self-development.

Home

Yabedi Pedrish

Family with home is related and the family aspect of determining the character of a person. Family is the smallest unit of society, made up of heads of families and some outstanding people in a home interdependence. Family is the most perfection of life.

Father as head of the family very important role in the development of her child. child development is a very noble task for a father, as a father almost every day the nearby the child. In interact with the child, when the child was a child then the father should be a good mentor for her son. father and son should have good communication to shape the moral values of a child's. father should be able to perform best control to child

If there is a father who control and shape the nature of a child,so mother is a place to complain, hope and love are the most important for a child, if the father is too hard to teach a child, Mothers who become place to inform a child to complain, mother always meet the needs of children and constantly always there for the children.

Families should have the following functions :

• Religion: good family certainly teach children about the value of religion to be beraklak and pious man. refer to qualified families who can shore up his family, build his future son and daughter appropriate with QS al-Anfal 28.
• Social: families should be able to invest social values to children, so that children do not feel afraid to socialize with the local community.
• Love and affection: the family had to teach her how to share love, not only for his own family but also others

So with the good teaching then will be seen the characteristic features of a good parent in the eyes of her children

1. responsive parents: children desperately need a response from the parents about of the things that they do.
2. parents who able to increase confidence
3. keeping promises: parents are sometimes more demanding than giving something to their children, so that children are not eager to do something, but if the parent is able to keep her promise is ok
4. provide guidance: This is required by child when he started growing up. "signal, if you are a successful parent so when they came to tell her personal problems to you"
5. able balancing discipline: child must require discipline, but they do not have to continue to be robust to the rules
6. give time and tolerance

so the family is an important aspect in building the character of someone, without the person's family will never be happy. Because humans will never win against loneliness

Home Leader

Ava Anisa R

Pemimpin tidak dilahirkan, mereka dikembangkan. Dan seorang pemimpin sejati adalah pemimpin dalam setiap bidang kehidupan. Orang tua memberikan pengaruh awal pada anak-anak. Dengan kepemimpinan model dalam kehidupan mereka sendiri, orang tua sangat mempengaruhi jenis pemimpin anak-anak mereka. Ini membantu untuk melihat semuanya dalam jangka panjang, karena pandangan luas membantu dalam memudahkan pendewasaan dan membantu menjaga tujuan awal. Namun pelatihan anak-anak untuk menjadi pemimpin tidak hanya membutuhkan waktu (berpikir kuantitas, bukan hanya "kualitas"), tetapi juga bimbingan dalam setiap aspek kehidupan, mulai dari masa kanak-kanak awal.

Salah satu hadiah terbesar yang dapat Anda berikan anak-anak Anda adalah dengan menetapkan batas-batas bagi mereka dan dengan memodelkan perilaku diri sendiri. Orangtua yang merupakan pemimpin tahu ini: Modeling adalah yang paling kuat dari semua guru. Ayah dan ibu yang merupakan pemimpin rumah menerima bahwa mereka, bukan bintang olahraga, ikon budaya pop, atau selebriti Hollywood, tetapi model peran bagi anak-anak mereka. Kepemimpinan di rumah tertulis dalam pernyataan ini: Anak saya adalah produk dari hasil parenting saya. Pandangan cara parenting lain adalah kebodohan yang tidak bertanggung jawab. Tukang pembuat alasan tidak pernah menjadi seorang pemimpin. 

Parenting adalah keterampilan yang dipelajari, kemampuan yang dikembangkan bahwa orang tua yang bertanggung jawab yang berusaha untuk mempelajarinya. Luangkan waktu untuk mengenal anak-anak Anda untuk memahami apa masalah dan isu anak-anak Anda dan kemudian membimbing mereka ke keputusan yang tepat dengan menerapkan prinsip-prinsip yang benar. Beri mereka tanggung jawab yang sesuai dengan usia dan membiarkan mereka berdiri atau jatuh pada keputusan mereka. 

Leadership

A. Georgina Sandra Putri

1122002004

Being a leader is not easy, if we describe in the form of social strata in an institution / organization in the community then the figure of a leader occupy top level positions. A leader is chosen based on the level of intelligence, credible and individual quality that are very strong, who have the vision, mission and goals which are very dominating both within an institution, company, organization and even within a nation state.

The ideal leader should have a role and a very strong character to his followers. He must have a strong soul, charismatic, high-minded and authoritative in the eyes of his followers. A leader must be able to carry a great responsibility in leading, even afford to sacrifice body and soul and wealth to fulfill the vision and mission in achieving the expected goals for him and his followers. Furthermore he must be able to nurture, protect, and can give justice to his followers, institution / organization that he lead. So no wonder if a leader is often dubbed as the demigod like the song who is created by Iwan Fals.

The more larger institution / organization that he led the more greater the pressure that will be faced by a leader, he will be confronted by a lot of pressure as opposition, distaste, demands, conflicts and even the threat of those who want to drop him either from internal or external.

There are countless examples of great leaders who are very successful and are able to bring the country towards progress. Even the figure of a very charismatic leader who is able to break the racism in a country, one of them is Barack Obama who went on to become a leader in the United States and is not a white person, he was the first black president in the United States that the majority of their population is white-skinned people. The story of extraordinary leadership of mainland Latin America, Simon Bolivar is a citizen of Venezuela and the only man who had been a leader in 4 different countries in the years 1813-1830. He had been a President in the State of Peru, Colombia, Venezuela and Ecuador.

There is no limit to become a leader, everyone can be a leader both men and women, especially in these days where the emancipation of women is very high, a lot of women have become leaders even became president, for example Megawati Sukarnoputri who is capable of being the first women as a president in our country. 

In today's world a lot of leaders are not trustworthy, for example in our country a lot of leaders who are only concerned with their own interests, abusing their positions, corruption and more involved deviations that was incompatible with the true soul of a leader. If a leader can not trust and can not lead well then what about the people / followers. We have a lot of listening to the stories and history of leadership in a fall of a country, such as the fall of the Suharto regime in our country, the revolution in some countries Arabia etc., this is due trustworthiness is not longer a leader to lead the country, dictator, and impartiality of the little people.

We can all be a leader, but his true leadership to nurture the soul of leadership within us is at the start of the lead ourselves, for ourselves and life skills in leadership has been honed since an early age so it is a great opportunity and a goal to become a great leader. Because the people who went on to become a leader is a very tough people who started the stage by successfully leading themselves, their family, and then in an organization, then the larger scope that is leading the nation and the State.

In a more modest scope for example, of any school we have been taught to have the soul of being a leader. We can cultivate leadership within ourselves to instill discipline, responsibility and socialization in the neighborhood, never dreamed of becoming a great leader. Because not everyone can become a great leader, if it does not start with the lead yourself, the family and the environment, if not able to lead yourself . Then we just be limited to the leader is not a leader.

Home and Leadership

Sonny Santoso Wibowo

1122002013

Leaders aren’t born, they’re developed. And a true leader is a leader in every area of life. Parents who are involved in their communities provide  the best leadership examples. People can do small things, like build a community park in their neighborhood, or big things, like run for public office or join community groups. Being a leader in your family builds a strong and healthy community.

Parents provide the earliest influence on children. By modeling leadership in their own lives, parents profoundly affect the kind of leaders their children become. It helps to see all of this in the long term, because assists in smoothing out the immature peaks and valleys helps keep goals on track. But training children to be leaders not only takes time but also guidance in every facet of life, from early childhood on. 

Take time to know your children. A parent needs to learn to work with each child’s personality, to develop that child’s individual traits and abilities, and sometimes to temper strengths that, left unchecked, would become liabilities. For example, an assertive, outgoing personality is a great trait in a leader, but without self-control that leader will be seen as overly aggressive and controlling.

Take the time to show children where they can learn from other people’s examples. Use examples and outcomes of both right and wrong approaches to situations. Teach them cause and effect that choices have consequences.

Take the time to understand what problems and issues your children are dealing with, and then guide them to the right decisions by applying the right principles. By instilling principles rather than pat answers to problems, you will give them tools to work with that they can use over and over again in life.

Take the time to praise your children regularly for right choices and gently point out the choice they missed when they go astray. Give them age-appropriate responsibilities and let them stand or fall on their decisions. 

Take the time to involve your children in family activities and work. Include service projects for those outside your immediate family as well. This will help kids learn responsibility, teamwork and a good work ethic. There is no place where spirit of service can be cultivated like the Home.  People are supposed to serve. Life is a mission, not a career. It is a source of happiness, because you don’t get happiness directly. 

Young people need to see that good leaders are important in their Community and there are great rewards for being a good leader. Those rewards include a sense of satisfaction and a feeling that what you are doing is meaningful and significant. You don’t always win when you lead, but that’s okay. Young people should be rewarded and encouraged for stepping up and leading, no matter whether they succeed or fail.

Leadership in The Family

Rabiah El Adawiyyah

Humans are social beings who can not live alone. In life, people are always interact with others and with the environment. Humans live in groups either in large groups or in small groups. Living in groups for sure is not easy. In order to create harmonious living conditions, group members must respect and appreciate each other. Regularity of life needs to be maintained. Regular life is the dream of every human being. Creating and maintaining a harmonious life is a human task.

Human is awarded the ability to think, the ability to sort and choose which ones are good and which are bad. With these advantages, people should be able to manage their environment properly. Not only the environment that needs to be managed well, the social life of human beings also should be managed properly. For that, it is needed quality human resources. Resource that spirited leader, at least not to lead themselves. With the spirited leader, people will be able to themselves, the group, and the environment well.

 Family is a place where all the development of leadership qualities. Family is the best place to train all of the personal qualities that we need in order to become a good leader. In a family, the husband is a supreme leader (called top manager). And the second leader is a woman who can be called as well as middle manager or lower manager. The purpose of a family is to support the growth and development of its members. All members of the family should have their growth, development and health, even the adults. 

Leadership that applied in a family must be open and egalitarian. A family member is obliged to maintain themselves in their attitude and everyday behavior, so that the harmonious life materialized. Each family leader should be gentle towards all their followers. In matters concerning the interests of the family, both in planning, organizing, mobilization and supervision. 

Education in the family is the foundation for the next child education. It can be also said that the family is the foundation stone for the first and primary education. It is said like that because every knowledge, intellectual, and interests of children first be obtained from the parents (family) and other family members. Therefore parents must instill values that is necessary for the development of children’s personality, so that the child will grow and have good personality traits.

Not all parents in guiding their children have a similar view, depending on the forms of leadership adopted by parents in the family itself. In general, there are three kinds of forms of parents leadership, which are democratic, authoritarian and liberal. These parents leadership for sure have a different impact on the maturity of their children themselves. For example, the impact of democratic patterns of care is that the children possess confidence, be optimistic, and have a creative power. Whereas the impact of authoritarian patterns of care are children who are not safe, less confident, easy to doubt and despair, passive and can not evolve. 

While the impact of liberal patterns of care is that children who are ignorant, don’t respect other people and don’t care about other people’s circumferences and the impact is not good for the formation of maturity of the child. Therefore parents have a very important role in the development of their children. 

The relationship between the leader and the led of the family, should be fostered rope bonds of affection in addition to other materials factors. A husband as a top manager, should be fair to his wife. Similarly, as a parent to his children and other family members. Hatred to members should be avoided. If there is an attitude and behavior that is not good, it should be corrected with patience, so that attitudes and behaviors are lost with self-education to family members, do not even act unjustly.